Female Orgasm and Pleasurable Living

2011-08-27T13:08:00.000-07:00

Female Orgasm with the DOing Method, Deliberate Orgasm Method -- written in the new book by Tim Ferriss

The DOing Method was talked about in Tim Ferris new Book “The 4-Hour Body.”

DOing stands for Deliberate Orgasm.

A practionner of Deliberate Orgasm talks about her experience of using Deliberate Orgasm in her life for the past eleven years:

“DOing is a great thing. It has made my whole life better, and it is really fun.
D.O. in DOing stands for Deliberate Orgasm. It's when two people get together and they put their attention on one person's body. So one of the things I found out when I tried this out, I had a DO date with a man - I asked him to DO me - and it felt so good. I couldn't believe that he could touch my clit even better than I could do it myself. It blew my mind, and I wanted to have more of that... so I did.”

With Deliberate Orgasm, the potential to experience better orgasm than a person could give themselves exists. It expands experiences in human sexuality for both women and men:

“I used to have really fun experiences with people but then after I was with somebody for awhile it would get stale. I was always looking for something to spice it up. When I discovered DOing, this was the thing that had my sex life get better and better all the time because it includes communicating and it is something that people can expand on. It can always feel good and it can always feel better. You can continuously find out ways to have it be even better. That's what you can DO in your sex life is DO - Learn to DO."

To learn the DOing Method, view Deliberate Orgasm Videos or Online Female Orgasm Videos on Deliberate Orgasm, join the Clit Board online forum on female orgasm, or take a Online Female Orgasm Class and start your journey toward a better relationship and a better sex life now.

Yes, Every Woman Is Orgasmic. Redefining Female Orgasm With Deliberate Orgasm and Slow Sex.

2011-07-16T15:57:00.000-07:00

It is understandable that so many women would feel that they are having trouble achieving orgasm since we are misinformed when it comes to the female orgasm.

Fortunately today, Female Orgasm is being researched and revolutionized, changing sex forever.

The Welcomed Consensus are female orgasm researchers and sex educators.

Yes, you heard correctly, they research female orgasm, 365 days a year, and have for over 25 years.

And their findings are life changing.

They demonstrate and prove that every woman is orgasmic. Not only is every women orgasmic, in fact, every woman can experience it easily and daily.

The cutting edge practice of Deliberate Orgasm founding to Slow Sex makes it easy for every woman to experience orgasm by herself and with a partner.

The first step in experiencing orgasm is to see and believe that it is possible. The Welcomed Consensus instructors give a demonstration of a woman experiencing a one hour orgasm that shows the physiological, emotional and spiritual mind set to experience it.

That in itself is inspiring. But most of all, they are to be applauded for having taken years of research and created a daily practice that can be used by every woman and man to experience orgasm and a sex life beyond traditional limiting views of sex.

Most of us may not sign up for a one hour orgasm, but we would most likely relish the idea of a daily 3 minute orgasm (in the morning, before getting out of bed, for work)

The Deliberate Orgasm practice gives the tools to experience a daily female orgasm, one that is easy to have, easy to give and easy to enjoy. Deliberate Orgasm is powerful. It has given birth to Slow Sex. Deliberate Orgasm and Slow Sex redefines the female orgasm to a new model that opens the door to many new experiences.

The best way to experience it is to practice it yourself. First, learning how to stroke the spot of a woman's clitoris (the upper left quadrant of her clitoris is the most sensitive spot on her clitoris), with your index finger. Look at her clitoris (so you know you are on her spot), feel and talk about what you are experiencing together. Do this everyday for several days, a minimum of 3 minutes per day. Then, more will come...

To witness Deliberate Orgasm demonstrated, the DVD “Orgasm at the First Touch” gives the basics and step-by-step instruction.

Sensuality and Sexuality On-line classes are available to learn D.O.ing from home as well as Female Orgasm Videos to change your experience of sex and orgasm for ever.

The Welcomed Method = Deliberate Orgasm

2011-03-04T12:55:00.000-08:00

"I'm walking around with a clitoris hard-on!"

If you have heard of the Welcomed Method from well-known author David Shade he is referring to the technique called Deliberate Orgasm. He first saw this technique demonstrated in the video titled, Deliberate Orgasm: Expanding Female Orgasm. The DVD demonstrates an extended orgasm in a woman's body that lasts for 29 minutes.

David Shade's success using Deliberate Orgasm (also called DOing) with his enthusiastic girlfriend inspired him to dedicate an entire chapter called The Welcomed Method in his book, Masterful Lover Manual.

Read this fun story in David's own words about his experience DOing his girlfriend for the first time:

"Most women believe that direct stimulation of the naked tip of the clit is too sensitive. My girlfriend said the same thing. When she masturbates, she goes in a circular motion. She also prefers that I touch her clit in the same manner. She does not like the naked tip of the clit to be touched, as it is "too much". She prefers the hood to be rubbed over the clit, providing a "pushing" pressure onto the clit.

My friend Brent lent me a video he ordered online he called "The Welcomed Method" from the web site: welcomed.com. The guy in the video certainly seems to know what he is doing. He showed how you must directly touch the naked tip of the clit at its one o'clock position (as looking AT the clit) with the tip of the index finger. In the video he demonstrated on a woman. He rubbed her for about 10 minutes. All the time she was orgasmic, but she never "came". I returned the video and thought nothing of it.

One night I told my girlfriend about what I learned in the video. I told her that the guy said that "Any clitoris can be touched, when touched right." I said to her "I want to try an experiment." She said "OK! But I'm a little skeptical as in the past direct stimulation has been too powerful."

Just as in the video, I had her lie on her back. I sat to her left side and placed my left arm under her left leg with my hand under her ass with my thumb pressing on her perineum (between her vagina and her anus.) The video said this makes her feel secure and anchors the clitoris. My girlfriend agreed with that. The video said to use a lot of lubrication because you must avoid micro scratches. I used Astro Glide, nothing else works nearly as well.

Just as in the video, I slid the tip of my right index finger up onto her clitoris. I smeared the lubrication onto her clit and then began to rub the one o'clock position of the naked bulb of the clit. The rubbing is to be done with the tip of the index finger pointing straight at the clit. The strokes are about one half inch and at a frequency of about 1 or 2 strokes a second. The strokes are to be radial, as if along the minute hand at five minutes past the hour. She immediately responded favorably. She said "I LIKE THIS experiment." I tried the 11 o'clock position and asked her if that was any different. She said that the one o'clock position was better. I then tried the six o'clock position, and again she said that the one o'clock position was better. So I went back to that.

I don't know why the one o'clock position is better, and the guy in the video didn't explain it. I continued. Before long, she said "This feels SO good that I don't WANT to come!" I instructed her to continue to relax totally. She said she was right on the edge. She was in continuous total ecstasy. This continued for about 30 minutes. Then she said that the pleasure was so intense that she couldn't take it any more and she wanted to come. I told her the magic words, and she did.

We talked about it and she said "The orgasm was different than any before. The sensation was different. It was like my clitoris was being pulled! It was like I had a penis and it was getting pulled. It is totally unlike the usual rubbing where there is pressure ONTO the clitoris. This was different."

The next day she said "Every time I think about it, I get really horny. It's like when you first learn how to masturbate, you want to keep doing it. I've been craving it all day, I'm walking around with a clitoris hard on!"

Answers to what a female orgasm looks like

2011-02-20T20:25:00.000-08:00

In the recent Podcast Episode 13: Fireworks and Female Orgasm, Sandy K. discloses her personal views and perception of female orgasm before and after she attended the Sensuality Retreat.

A self-professed "wild and crazy woman" at the start of her love and relationship with her partner, Sandy candidly tells us what she was looking for, what life-changing discoveries she made and the new direction she wants to take her relationship with the man she has been in love with for four years.

Here are some excerpts:

What were you looking for when you found the Welcomed Consensus?

Sandy: Answers, to what a female orgasm looks like. Also, what a female orgasm feels like. To accept my own body and my own sexuality and sensuality. To be open to being a sensual woman and being responsible for that as opposed to being in constant denial of "I am a sexual being and I have sexual needs."

What was your concept of orgasm before coming to the retreat?

Sandy: ..that I didn't have them, that I wasn't capable of having them. That what I have had isn't validated. That I don't have them like other women and that it's supposed to be like fireworks!

Did you get what you were looking for?

Sandy: .. Definitely. I wanted to be responsible for my orgasm. I know that I now can have as many of them as I want, as often as I want for as long as I want. To learn to communicate to my partner what I want, and to communicate how I'm experiencing it ...

Click here to listen to the full episode or read the transcript.

A Fun Way to Meet Up

2011-01-31T16:12:00.000-08:00

A Fun Way to Meet Up - Come to a Benchmark!

Benchmarks have started up again for the New Year. The first one is this coming Thursday in San Francisco. As a special guest, an instructor of Deliberate Orgasm will be at the February 3 event.

Benchmarks are a way to meet up with like-minded people. You will participate in structured communication games, and whether you have just met or have known one another for years, you always learn something you didn't know about a person at a Benchmark.

Date & Time:

San Francisco: Thursdays. February 3 - March 10 7:30-10:30PM
New Haven: Sundays. February 20, March 13, March 27

Contact: Call 1-877-469-8636 or email to let us know you would like to attend and we will send you directions.

If you or someone you know will be in San Francisco or New Haven this month, meet up with us at the Benchmark for a fun evening! As always you are welcome to bring friends. The commitment for a Benchmark is $11.00 or whatever. Please arrive a few minutes early to register.

It would be fun to meet up with You!

Can Tension Lead to More Pleasure?

2010-05-03T10:54:00.000-07:00

A Woman's Tumescence

People experience a lot of tension in our world today. However, there is a phenomenon that is not often recognized that could change all that tension into a path to more pleasure...

What is tumescence?
Pronunciation: \tü-'me-sen(t)s

The dictionary defines tumescence as:
1. a swelling or an enlargement
2. the quality or state of being tumescent: readiness for sexual activity marked especially by an accumulation of blood in the sex organs.

From a sensualist’s viewpoint, a more encompassing definition of tumescence is the buildup of tension in the body. Detumescence is the waning of tension.

Tumescence is stored energy, unreleased. Tumescence is always present in a woman’s body, but the amount of this tension in her body ebbs and flows in intensity every day throughout her entire life.

When a woman is experiencing a high level of tumescence in her body, it can FEEL like tension. It can feel like that to her, and it can feel like that to the people around her too - stressful. It is in these situations where there is a high level of tumescence, that people are challenged to have any fun or pleasure relating to each other at all. So, how can you recognize this level of tumescence? And once you do recognize it, how do you have more FUN with it?

Signs of a woman experiencing a high level of tumescence will show up in different ways. Some of the signs are a woman talking very quickly where you may have a difficult time following what she says or understanding her communications. Or a woman might start crying or laughing for no particular reason. She could be feeling stressed out or bitchy. She might have sensitivity to loud jangly noises, or an aversion to light touch.

Being an avid observer of a woman and her cycles of tumescence, you can get to know her better and have more fun with her. What women want is to have attention and to have their body taken care of, to be detumesced. When you put your attention on her, you may begin to notice the many ways a woman uses and releases this energy. These ways can be deliberate or they can be by default.

Some of the ways that a woman can deliberately be detumesced are exercising, cleaning, organizing, masturbating, having sex, taking a bath, getting a massage, having her hair brushed, having a good conversation, or laughing. All of these methods detumesce a woman deliberately and pleasurably.

Some of the ways that a woman will be detumesced by default are bumping into furniture, tripping, falling, arguing, fighting, causing or engaging in drama.

When you notice a woman and the tumescence she has in her body, you can make offers that are pleasurable to her.

As a man, you can run a menu of things that you think would pleasurably detumesce her. For example, "How about if I run you a bath?" or "Would you like to go for a walk together?" or "How about I DO you?" Putting your non-judgmental attention on her is detumescing.

As a woman, you don’t need to be victimized by the intensity of the energy you feel in your body either. Tumescence is stored energy, unreleased. When you notice tension, a tool you can use to have more fun is to identify it as tumescence. Then take a moment to consider detumescing deliberately. You can choose to take care of your body - acknowledge the tension that you are feeling and release it pleasurably.

When tension in everyday life is recognized as tumescence, the potential exists for both men and women to have more fun together, exploiting the buildup of tension for what it is.

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On the Same Page Pleasurably: Part 1

2010-02-12T12:12:00.000-08:00

"Do you ever felt like you wanted more out of life? Have you ever fantasized about having a sex life where you could simply ask for what you want?"

In Episode 10 of the Female Orgasm Podcast you heard from Vladimir regarding his experiences in learning about women through Deliberate Orgasm. In Episode 11 you will hear from his DOing partner Rachael on her experiences of adding on Deliberate Orgasm and being on the same page pleasurably with her partner.

In Part 1 of this 3 Part series, Rachel describes what she has experienced in her orgasm since incorporating Deliberate Orgasm into her sex life and how it has changed her approach to sex. Listen in as she shares intimate details from her experiences of the many ways in which her orgasm has expanded. Feeling free from worrying about reciprocating, she talks about what it is like to feel sexually gratified by the fun and pleasure she gets from DOing. She candidly discusses what it feels like in her body to have a man put his attention on her and her pleasure.

Listen Now:

Celebrate Valentine's Day with a Couples Retreat

2010-02-04T09:12:00.000-08:00

For people interested in having More in their lives, a Couples Retreat with can transform a relationship into a life long date with a sex life beyond your wildest dreams.

With fresh viewpoints presented in the lectures and discussions, instantaneous change is available. Demonstrations, exercises and coaching within the couples retreat reinforce and strengthen what has been learned. Emphasis is placed on delivering new viewpoints, enlightening information and other tools vital in making the choices for a more gratifying and pleasurable relationship and a life that keeps getting better.

"This was a remarkable course. It really expanded my awareness of what's possible in the realms of sensuality and communication."
~Retreat Participant, June 2005

The Since 1992, the Welcomed Consensus has been successfully teaching men and women how to get back in touch with their senses, learn winning communication skills and create pleasurable, fun lives. As sensual researchers with a focus on female orgasm, the instructors offer several options for a powerful, one of a kind retreat experience.

Current Dates for the 3-Day Couples Sensuality Retreat
in Northern California:
February 13 - 15th
March 6 - 8th

For more information or to register call 1-877-469-8638 (How-to-DO). You may also register on-line.

1 Million Views on YouTube - A Three Minute Orgasm (sneak preview)

2010-01-23T16:46:00.000-08:00

Since 1996 the Welcomed Consensus have offered educational DVDs depicting extended female orgasm as a way to show what was possible. A 3 Minute Orgasm series shows how even a 3 Minute Orgasm can also be a gratifying experience, making a difference in the overall well-being for women and men.

We are proud to announce that A 3 Minute Orgasm (sneak preview) was released on YouTube has now surpassed 1 Million views.

Got 3 minutes? A sensuality instructor of the Welcomed Consensus talks about Deliberate Orgasm (DOing) in this sneak preview of their new video, A Three Minute Orgasm - Part 1. Released: July 1, 2008.

The G-Spot: Does It or Doesn't It?

2010-01-06T13:58:00.000-08:00

By now most people interested in the topic of female orgasm has read, or at least heard about, the resent research claiming the G-spot is not real conducted at King’s College London. The study consisted of a questionnaire that was given to 1,804 British women aged 23-83, meaning in layman's terms that their research was a survey.

The results showed that while 56% of women overall claimed to have a G-spot, they tended to be younger and more sexually active. Since identical twins were no more likely to share the characteristic than non-identical twins the researchers concluded that "there is no evidence for the existence of the G-spot — supposedly a cluster of internal nerve endings — outside the imagination of women influenced by magazines and sex therapists."

The Welcomed Consensus have researched female orgasm for over 25 years and have found that just as engorgement plays a significant role in male sexual pleasure, it is an important component for women as well. What has been named the “g-spot” is simply the underneath side of the clitoris as it forks into the legs or crura. This spot (which are actually two very specific spots, not just one) are accessible through engorgement as either leg of the clitoris runs adjacent to the urethral sponge.

Female engorgement is two-fold. There is external, or what is visible including the clitoral glans and shaft, the clitoral hood, inner and outer labia, perineum and anus. And there is internal engorgement including the clitoral bulbs, urethral sponge, the pelvic floor and tissues surrounding the pelvic area. They do seem to be correlated to one another, how engorged she appear externally gives you an idea of how much engorgement is present internally.

Upon proper engorgement in the pelvic region, there are several other places that become accessible that are extremely pleasurable called Thunkspots. If the engorgement is created and maintained, all of the Thunkspots remain accessible and sensational to the lightest touch.

Related Articles:
Demystify the G-Spot: Discover the many Sensational Thunkspots
All Female Orgasm is Clitorally Based
Misconceptions about Kegel Exercises

Winning Communication: Pathway to Female Orgasm

2010-01-06T13:54:00.000-08:00

Most people would agree that communication is key to having a gratifying sex life and relationship. Since sex is so difficult to communicate about, it is also important to know how to communicate in a way that feels good. One way is to use what we call "Winning Communication". This involves both parties winning and getting what they want through deliberate gathering of useful information.

When a man asks a woman, "Do you like this?" it is just as likely she will say "no" as it is she will say “yes”. Potentially one of the reasons a woman might lie and say “yes”, is to avoid hurting his feelings, and is akin to faking it. If she says “no” neither person is going to feel good about it, and he is still lacking information about what she does like.

On the other hand, if he asks her "Do you want more pressure", he can win regardless of her answer. If she says "yes" he knows what to do to make it feel better, use more pressure. This is also one of the rare instances a “no” is good news, it means he is using the precise amount of pressure she likes, and he can now go on to ask questions until everything he is doing is exactly the way she wants it. This is also useful because what women enjoy can change from day to day or moment to moment. With winning communication he is equipped to give her what she wants, anytime and every time.

How to orgasm with more sexual pleasure ~ Explore sexual desire with female orgasm

2010-01-05T13:10:00.000-08:00

Featured in this clip is Kent, a student taking a Confirmation Course from The Welcomed Consensus He is learning how to create sexual pleasure in a woman's body, and describing some of the experiences he has had on this journey of exploring his own and a woman's sexual potential.

"I heard about the Welcomed Consensus from a friend. She told me that the Welcomed Consensus could improve the quality of my sensual life. I want to get better at communication and understanding women. I was looking to get more out of the relationships I had with women, and I felt that the concepts presented by The Welcomed Consensus could improve my life on that front... I also got in touch with my own sensuality, which is the best part of it. I (can) feel how the woman feels."

Get on the same page sensually ~ Setting sensual goals

2010-01-01T11:52:00.000-08:00

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What are your sensual goals?

Successful people make goals about specific things they want to accomplish regarding their career, health, finances, family or sports. The act of setting goals helps define and direct a course of action, and shapes the choices a person will make on a day-to-day basis.

But what about when it comes to pleasure, improving your sex life or having a better orgasm? Do goals apply here the same as they would in business?

Sensual goals may seem like a contradiction, but only because we think of goals as something to work at, just one more thing to add to our To Do List.

Sensual goals are based in pleasure and enjoyment. They involve the senses and experience of life. They emphasize going towards fun and winning. Having fun is an honorable goal.

For a sensualist, having sensual goals makes a difference in the overall quality of a person's life. When we are faced with choices we can ask ourselves if this option or the other will lead us closer to our goal or not.

A question such as, "Does this activity bring more or less pleasure into my life?" can clarify where to put our attention and energy.

In an area as broad as your sex life, it is valuable to define sensual goals in terms of what you want. When you think about having more pleasure and fun, what comes to mind? When you think of better orgasm, what does that mean to you? What are you doing and feeling? Start with what you enjoy and what you'd like to have more of in your daily life. Write it down while imagining each of your senses and how they come into play.

Then refine your goals by answering the specific questions that develop. Perhaps you would like to feel more sensation in your body during sex. Or maybe you would like to consistently and reliably have orgasm in your daily life. For example, one specific sensual goal could be to masturbate for the pleasure of it every day. Another could be to write about a sensual experience in your journal each day.

You might also have goals for your partner. What do you want them to know about giving you more pleasure? What would make your time together even more fun? Perhaps you’d like to learn about each other’s bodies. If so, you could have the goal to tell your partner something new every time you have a sensual experience, whether it be having sex or eating dinner together. Tell them something you liked, something that you have never told them before. Describe your experience in detail so that they can feel your enjoyment.

If you select one or two goals now and go towards making them happen, new ideas and desires will open up. As they do, write them down and use them to create your next pleasurable goal.

We are all sensual beings. Pleasure is something people resist having, especially women. It feels good to be around people who enjoy what is going on around them. With sensual goals you can deliberately bring more of what you enjoy into your sex life. Those good feelings will naturally be carried into everything else you do.

To see what others are saying on the topic of sensual goals visit the Clit Board - Sensual Goals discussion.

If you have sensual goals you are interesting reaching and are not clear how, you may be interested in reading some student comments from a recent Sensuality Retreat with the Welcomed Consensus.

Female Orgasm and Pleasurable Childbirth

2009-12-20T12:28:00.000-08:00

Earlier in the year the idea of 'pleasurable childbirth' gained public awareness with the release of Debra Pascali-Bonaro's documentary Orgasmic Birth. Previously a handful of books have been published on the topic and more recently we have heard reports of the phenomenon of "birthgasms" or orgasms mothers to be can experience unexpectedly during childbirth.

Deliberate Orgasm can and has been used in pleasurable childbirth, as well as pleasurable pregnancy and pleasurable post-pregnancy. Through manual stimulation of the clitoris by her partner, the pregnant or birthing woman can focus her attention on relaxing and feeling pleasure, while her partner who learns the technique has a reliable way to produce an orgasm in her body. As a female model of orgasm, one that can build in intensity and duration, the woman can have as much orgasm as she wants, whenever she wants. While masturbation and the spike of endorphins experienced from a climatic orgasm clearly offer benefits, the approach of Deliberate Orgasm provides solutions not yet considered.

Also on the topic of pleasurable child birth please read these excerpts from a recent article Orgasm and Masturbation the New Epidural for Birth? by Tinamarie Bernard

"The science behind orgasmic birth:
...Oxytocin is released when we orgasm, when women breastfeed, and during childbirth. It’s responsible for all those feel good, highly pleasurable sensations like the ‘Big-O’, and ‘let down.’ And it helps diminish pain. The problem is that it is released in spurts, not continuously like other hormones. Things like fear, bright lights, or having strangers watching you can easily inhibit the process. Call it the shy hormone if you will, but know that it is your body’s best friend during birth if reduced pain, less tearing and increased pleasure are your ideals.

Masturbation during labor?
Can we trick oxytocin to stick around? The answer is yes, through masturbation. According to Jaiya in the video below small-scale studies show that clitoral masturbation and orgasm during childbirth prevents 100% of perineal ripping...

...This doesn't mean that all women will orgasm every time they give birth, but that they can use their bodies own pain minimizing functions, structures and hormones to help ease their new baby into this world. With C-sections occurring at an alarming rate in our country, 'orgasmic birth' is a paradigm shift waiting to happen."

To learn more about DOing a woman while she is expecting and birthing, you can view the Welcomed Consensus DVD DOing in Different Positions.

You may also read the complete article in the San Francisco Examiner

Sensuality Introductory Retreat

2009-12-15T09:17:00.000-08:00

Since 1992, the Welcomed Consensus has been successfully teaching men and women how to get back in touch with their senses, learn winning communication skills and create pleasurable, fun lives. As sensual researchers with a focus on female orgasm, the instructors offer several options for a powerful, one of a kind retreat which are suitable for beginning to advanced students regardless of experience or proficiency.

Below are responses from students who recently attended the 3-Day Sensuality Introductory Retreat in Northern California.

Day 1 & 2: Lecture and Discussion
I appreciate the structure and flow of how the course was set up, meaning that the content presented in the beginning gave a foundation from which I could understand the ensuing information/context.

I am happy to have the “winning viewpoints” presented and broken down to me. I loved the “homework” and thought that was such a fun experience; and it gives me a template/blueprint so that I can continue doing such sensuality exercises on my own and keep that research/growth going for myself.I felt very respected by the teachers, like the viewpoints and information were being delivered directly/respectfully…like it is my choice how much/how little I want to make the viewpoints my own. I feel inspired to keep learning /exploring my sensuality and sensuality in my relationships. Thank you!

Day 3: Demonstration of a 1-Hour Orgasm
Mostly, I’m aware of feeling the pulse throughout my body… like it’s throughout my skin and all my cells… heartbeat in every cell of my body. I was struck by how focused and attentive RJ was to Terry and how approving/receptive and inviting Terry was and became throughout the 1 hour process.

I could really feel the ascending of the peaks and then the coasting and the grounding/homecoming and completion at the end with the “thunkspots”. The opportunity at the end to put my hand on Terry’s thigh and feel all she was feeling was palpable—I felt very high and then a waterfall grounding.

If you are interested in or have any questions regarding retreats offered by the Welcomed Consensus you can contact them directly at 1(877)469-8636

"Slowing Her Down" for Extended Female Orgasm

2009-12-07T10:18:00.000-08:00

The Clit Board! is a place for men and women to talk about female orgasm and relationships, and is free to the public. The following is a recent question posted about using Deliberate Orgasm to extend a woman's orgasm.

"My partner loves to go over, and I've been able to slow her down and stretch things out using the techniques described on the forum. Once aroused, we begin to build toward her climaxes, which she loves and must have. I've been able to slow her down by changing my caresses and/or keeping the same stroke, but at a slower pace. These methods have worked very well, but she seems to be getting "wise" to my tricks to keep her from going over, and sometimes she may be feeling a little impatient or maybe even frustrated with my delays. Once her hips begin to move she becomes more assertive about me keeping her arousal rising, and it's then more difficult to keep her from going over. I love to keep her in a highly aroused state as long as possible, but not at the expense of her enjoyment. What are some other ways to delay her desire for climax?"

You can also read responses from instructors of the Welcomed Consensus and view this video featuring a couple talking about the impact Deliberate Orgasm has on their sex life.

"Intercourse vs. Orgasm" and the new definition of Orgasm

2009-11-12T10:15:00.000-08:00

Gentle Intercourse as described by Marnia Robinson in the Huffington is essentially "sex" with out the climax. Even though "sex" in this case is kept to the strictest sense of the word, it is revealing to note that the conversation regarding other experiences of sex and orgasm can and does include that which is not goal oriented towards climax and therefore reproduction.

For over 25 years the Welcomed Consensus Deliberate Orgasm research has been focused on a pleasure oriented rather than goal oriented model of orgasm, or what they call a female model of orgasm. Since female orgasm is not required for reproduction, women naturally have a more varied experience of orgasm than men do. This longer and potentially more intense type of orgasm can include a climax or not and is one that men are capable of learning and experiencing in their own bodies.

The benefits of pleasurable sex and orgasm are many and include increased intimacy and connection between partners as well as over all feeling of wellbeing. These effects have not only been observed in humans as the Bonobo Apes have become known for using sex to resolve conflicts.

We hope you enjoy the excerpts we have selected from Intercourse vs. Orgasm.

Not long ago, a Canadian research team discovered something surprising: In the recipe for great sex, orgasm is optional. Said the head researcher, "There is plenty of evidence that most people believe that the secret to sexual fulfillment is technical, that it's about better manual and oral stimulation techniques." In fact, "You could have terrible sex with orgasms and despite orgasms, but you could have optimal sexuality without orgasm."

So where did humans get the idea that sex must always lead to orgasm? At first I suspected our primitive mammalian mating program, which delivers a reinforcing "Yes!" with each climax. Turns out there's more to the story. Both the Church and the experts who compiled the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) have contributed to the belief that intercourse must be fertilization-driven (or orgasm-driven).

In the last century, when Belgian and French Catholics discovered that gentle intercourse without orgasm was a "means of achieving a more perfect, more spiritual conjugal love," the pope condemned it. Some Church authorities actually declared "incomplete sexual acts" mortal sins.

When it comes to orgasm, Church authorities are not the only conservatives. Whenever I've asked experts about doing a few weeks of research comparing the stress levels or healing speeds of couples engaging in orgasm-based sex with couples practicing gentle intercourse without the goal of orgasm, I received the same advice: "That wouldn't get past our ethics committee because sex without orgasm is considered a paraphilia, or sexual disorder."...

...As I learn more about the effects of sex on the brain, I realize it makes sense to take into account how recently, or intensely, we have climaxed. It appears that frequent, or especially intense, orgasm can create tolerance (a need for increasing stimulation to achieve future orgasms). It can also lead to satiety and habituation, which may show up as subconscious irritation, out of sync libidos, performance demands and insecurities. And it may promote the use of risky sexual enhancement measures as lovers try to overcome their built-in biological brakes with force. Not to be alarmist, but Viagra, for example, has been associated with sudden, irreversible blindness and has been blamed for many deaths through heart attack and stroke. Perhaps we are pressuring ourselves to reach unrealistic benchmarks...

...Maybe our limitations exist to urge us toward less driven affection. Perhaps it's time to expand our lovemaking repertoire to include relaxed, non-goal-oriented sexual activity with the primary goals of closer bonds and increased contentment.

View entire article here.

"Learning the Anatomy of Pleasure" with Deliberate Orgasm

2009-11-09T09:42:00.000-08:00

Contemporary human sexual research shows us that through deliberate clitoral stimulation women can experience orgasm that is both longer and more intense, and that both males and females can remain in the orgasmic phase for much longer than earlier studies indicate. Deliberate Orgasm research by the Welcomed Consensus is contributing greatly to developing a new model or a female model of orgasm.

As this new expanded model of orgasm is emerging into the mainstream, more people are talking about understanding our anatomy, the importance of communication and having pleasure as opposed to climax be the goal of our sensual activities as evidenced in these excerpts of an article by Loveologist Wendy Strgar titled Learning the Anatomy of Pleasure.

“Pleasure is the object, duty and the goal of all rational creatures."
~Voltaire

There is a lot about our own sexual anatomy that we never learned growing up. In fact, the anatomical facts of nature have been seriously updated. All of this talk of G spots and female ejaculation has inspired a second look. Who knew that the clitoris is not just a magic button crowning the vagina, but was proclaimed by Masters and Johnson as “a unique organ in the total of humanity.” The organ, with over 8000 nerve endings, twice as many as the penis, has actually 18 parts both visible and invisible. It is so complex and extends so deeply into the pelvis that is now actually considered an organ system. The clitoris is now widely considered homologous to the penis with more structural similarities than differences. This new understanding of the function of the clitoris as an intricate network capable of a vast multitude of unique and powerful orgasmic sensations literally changes the map to pleasure.

The same could be said of the male sexual organs. The anxiety that many, if not most, men feel about their penis size is as universal as the misconception that it is the penis that is the ringleader when it comes to sexual satisfaction and prowess.

Our lacking and misguided ideas about our anatomy may be partly to blame for the real problem that plagues so many couples. The incomplete understanding of our own or our partner’s anatomy is often accompanied by the lack of skill building that makes for intense and growing sexual satisfaction.

Of the women who have given their men sexual advice, over 64 percent of them said that when they gave their partners feedback on their love skills, they experienced more pleasure. The same was true for nearly 60 percent of men; so why not consider your sexual health as a new and vital home study course?

Taking control of your sexual education is one of the most loving acts you can bring to your relationship. But don’t get too serious about the lessons- the connection between humor and eroticism runs deep in our bones. Remember your childhood games of “playing doctor” or the laughter that erupted from the “gross-out” jokes? Applying this kind of levity and curiosity to re-learning the anatomical map to pleasure will make you laugh and surprise you, maybe even with an orgasm or two.”

Read the full article Learning the Anatomy of Pleasure.

For information on a woman’s pleasurable anatomy, read about Female Orgasm.

These gratifying contemporary orgasmic experiences are explained and illustrated in the Female Orgasm Videos. This unique set of educational female orgasm videos shows a man and a woman creating this new kind of orgasm in her body. All of the concepts that are demonstrated with female orgasm in the videos also apply to creating that type of orgasm in a man's body.

Having Sex for Fun: Bonobos

2009-11-06T13:44:00.000-08:00

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Human beings can have sex for fun. We are deemed unique in the sensual/sexual arena since females of our species have the rare ability to turn on and have sex at any time. A woman does not have to be in-heat like most other mammals in order to do it. Our brains have huge frontal lobes which govern many activities, one being voluntary or volitional sex. Simply conceiving the notion of a sex act can create the actual behavior. It is not hormonally dependent nor strictly biologically driven.

We are not alone, however, in this distinctive ability. Our next of kin on the evolutionary ladder, the Bonobo apes, have volitional sex and do so with relatively high frequency. They are one of the few other mammals that scientists have determined have sex for fun.

The Bonobos are the last primate species to be discovered (in 1933) and reside only in the rainforests of the Democratic Republic of Congo.

These slender, graceful apes walk on two feet, have mouths with reddish lips and females have frontally located genitalia. They are best characterized as being matriarchal or female-centered, egalitarian and non-aggressive. Conflicts, such as food ownership, jealousy or who gets off the tree limb first, are settled peacefully with sexual interaction rather than with aggression.

Bonobo sexual behavior is not a separate category like it is in most other species. Rather, it is integrated into the day-to-day social relationships amongst all individuals within the tribe. Frequent sexual arousal often is instigated by anything that stimulates the interest of two or more Bonobos. It could be feelings of jealousy over a fellow ape or simply coveting the banana or plaything of another.

Sexual bonding is the remedy for any potential squabble, therefore, fighting is a rare occurrence in this society. Sex is also used as a greeting and source of amicable food sharing when Bonobo groups encounter each other in the jungle. They barter with it and engage in it simply for the fun and enjoyment.

Sexual pairings are not restricted to male-female; all combinations occur except for mother-son. Group sex also takes place and mounting positions are varied as well. The most common sexual contact is genito-genital or "GG-rubbing" between two females. By facing and holding on to each other, two adult females rub their swollen crotches together while often expressing visible pleasure and joy.

Oral sex, tongue kissing, masturbation, mutual manual genital stimulation and copulation in many positions are other sexual activities that Bonobos enjoy just like people.

Due to the fact that volitional sex occurs randomly multiple times a day, female Bonobo vulvas are almost continuously pink and engorged, and are a constant signal for sexual willingness and attractiveness. In contrast, all other primates' genitalia are engorged only one quarter of the time. The frontal orientation of their vulva and clitoris allows them to copulate face-to-face or in "missionary" position, seemingly unique to only humans.

Squeals of delight, huge ear-to-ear smiles, arms behind her head or in tight embrace, gazing into each other’s eyes and passionate kisses are some of the ways they express their pleasure while copulating. The squeals and grins may be interpreted as orgasm.

Our endearing ape relatives are the epitome of consummate deliberate sexing. They successfully demonstrate that through pleasure and orgasm a peaceful, loving community directly results. Something their large brained cousins may want to consider.

To learn more about the Bonobo Ape, see this book on Amazon.com:

Bonobo: The Forgotten Ape

The Welcomed Method

2009-10-30T10:59:00.000-07:00

In 1996, the Welcomed Consensus released the first adult sex-educational video on Deliberate Orgasm titled Deliberate Orgasm Volume 1.

This video, which is now in it's second edition and available on DVD, was modeled after a course which features a One Hour Orgasm demonstration and was filmed in one take including questions from the audience. The Subtitle: Expanding Female Orgasm was added 8 years later, and is a description of the information that is available in this 40 minute release.

David Shade, adult sex educator and author of several books on pleasuring women, discovered Deliberate Orgasm Volume 1 when a friend loaned him a copy. Initially he didn't think much about the information until his girlfriend was enthusiastic to experiment with the technique. From their experience, David found such value in Deliberate Orgasm, he wrote an entire chapter dedicated to DOing titled "The Welcomed Method". In it he offers a description of the basic technique of DOing and his experience in applying what he learned with his girlfriend.

Here are some excerpts from The Welcomed Method:

Most women believe that direct stimulation of the naked tip of the clit is too sensitive. My girlfriend said the same thing. When she masturbates, she goes in a circular motion. She also prefers that I touch her clit in the same manner. She does not like the naked tip of the clit to be touched, as it is "too much." She prefers the hood to be rubbed over the clit, providing a "pushing" pressure onto the clit.

My friend Brent lent me a video he ordered from the web site: welcomed.com. The guy in the video certainly seems to know what he is doing. He showed how you must directly touch the naked tip of the clit at its one o'clock position (as looking AT the clit) with the tip of the index finger. In the video he demonstrated on a woman. He rubbed her for about 10 minutes. All the time she was orgasmic, but she never 'came.' I returned the video and thought nothing of it.

One night I told my girlfriend about what I learned in the video and I showed her the web site. I told her that the guy said that "Any clitoris can be touched, when touched right." I said to her "I want to try an experiment." She said "OK! But I'm a little skeptical as in the past direct stimulation has been too powerful."

Just as in the video, I had her lie on her back. I sat to her left side and placed my left arm under her left leg with my hand under her ass with my thumb pressing on her perineum (between her vagina and her anus.) ...Just as in the video, I slid the tip of my right index finger up onto her clitoris. I smeared the lubrication onto her clit and then began to rub the one o'clock position of the naked bulb of the clit... She immediately responded favorably. She said "I LIKE THIS experiment." I tried the 11 o'clock position and asked her if that was any different. She said that the one o'clock position was better. I then tried the six o'clock position, and again she said that the one o'clock position was better. So I went back to that.

Before long, she said "This feels SO good that I don't WANT to cum!" I instructed her to continue to relax totally. She said she was right on the edge. She was in continuous total ecstasy. This continued for about 30 minutes.

We talked about it later and she said "The orgasm was different than any before. The sensation was different. It was like my clitoris was being pulled! It was like I had a penis and it was getting pulled. It is totally unlike the usual rubbing where there is pressure ONTO the clitoris. This was different."

The next day she said "Every time I think about it, I get really horny. It's like when you first learn how to masturbate, you want to keep doing it. I've been craving it all day, I'm walking around with a clitoris hard on!"

Learn more about Deliberate Orgasm and Instructional Videos from the Welcomed Consensus.

"In Praise of Slow Sex"

2009-10-20T14:23:00.000-07:00

For 25 years our research on female orgasm has been a lot about slowing down. Slowing down your mind, slowing down your stroke. The reason being is that the slower you go, the more you can feel.

For example: Place the palms of your hands against one another. Now quickly slide them apart. Notice what you feel. Now, place the palms of you hands together as before, but this time pull them across one another and apart as slowly as you can. What do you feel now? (View video on this exercise)

Below is an article one of our students sent us regarding slow sex. It is written by Carl Honore, journalist author of "In Praise of Slowness". Enjoy.

In Praise of Slow Sex

The other day a buddy of mine was making love to his new girlfriend his cellphone beeped with an incoming text message. Like any guy, he hoped she would ignore the alert - or even fail to notice it altogether.

The opposite happened. The woman opened her eyes, grabbed the phone from the bedside table and read the message. She then typed out a short reply.

"To be fair, she apologized and suggested we go back to the sex," says my crestfallen friend. "But it was kind of a mood-killer."

Two conclusions can be drawn from an anecdote like this. The first is that my friend maybe needs to brush up on his sexual technique. The second is that his girlfriend's behavior reveals something alarming about the way we live nowadays.

In this media-drenched, multitasking, always-on age, many of us have forgotten how to unplug and immerse ourselves completely in the moment. We have forgotten how to slow down...read more from "In Praise of Slow Sex"

You can also visit the Welcomed Consensus website and read on topics such as female orgasm and where you can sign up to receive a free newsletter on having more fun and pleasure in your life.

Giving a Woman What She Wants: 3 Questions

2009-10-07T10:02:00.000-07:00

From a recent interview with a student, we selected these 3 questions on Deliberate Orgasm and giving a woman what she wants:

What do you like about DOing?
It’s a deliberate way to learn and to experience and to have fun with her body. With DOing I’ve learned more about her body than I ever thought possible and it’s a way that we can communicate while we are sexing and while I have my finger on her clit I get to find out what she likes and the more I found out the more important and interesting it has become every date I feel like I learn more about her body.

How has DOing added to your sex life?
You know, I never really knew about women and DOing is a way to learn about women about what they want, the pleasure they want in their lives and the aspect of communication while you’re having a DO date and asking her what she wants or thinking of things and using the training cycle and asking her if she wants a longer stroke and then getting feedback on what she wants. I felt like those blocks have been built along the way of, I know what she wants and I have a way to ask her what she wants if I think of something new.

What does the guy get out of it?
What the guy gets out of DOing and deliberate orgasm is a happy woman. You know, from my experience this is the way that you can have a happy woman. If you don’t have a happy woman in your life and you have that thought that you’d really like to have a happy woman in your life, this is a way that you can do it, because you can give her all the orgasm that she wants and she wants orgasm in her life. That’s one thing I know, that women want orgasm and all the experiences that I’ve ever had with women, they wanted orgasm. And if you’re thinking about getting some more orgasm in your woman’s life, this is a way to do it, deliberate orgasm, DOing is a way to have happiness and to have a happy woman.

Find information and discussion on this topic and more on the Clit Board! (free registration to post)

Demystify the G-Spot: Discover the many Sensational Thunkspots

2009-09-25T14:36:00.000-07:00

Thunkspots: Pressure sensitive spots accessible inside a woman’s vagina when she is properly engorged.

It is widely publicized that the clitoris contains more than 8,000 pressure sensitive nerve endings. What people are now realizing is that the clitoris extends into much of the body’s pelvic area and can engorge 2-3 times its normal size.

The commercially-known G-spot is just one of the many sensational spots inside a woman's vagina. The G-spot is simply the underneath side of the clitoris where it forks, becoming the clitoral legs or crura. The legs of the clitoris run adjacent to the urethral sponge. This area is the most prone to engorgement and is highly sensational, therefore, has drawn the most attention.

The vagina has no pressure-sensitive nerve endings, but there are pressure-sensitive nerve endings in the deeper tissue.

When the clitoris, internally and externally, is properly engorged, many sensational spots inside of a woman's vagina emerge and can be discovered for pleasurable stimulation. We call all of these sensitive spots Thunkspots.

So what is engorgement and what is the best way to create it? Sign up for our free newsletter and you can find out more...

Locate and stimulate all of her Thunkspots pleasurably. Explained and demonstrated in the DVD Manual Penetration while DOing - Thunkspots

Learning About Female Orgasm Through DOing

2009-09-08T09:30:00.000-07:00

Female Orgasm Podcast - Episode 10

Hear excerpts from an interview a student of the Welcomed Consensus, who agreed to be interviewed on his experiences regarding Deliberate Orgasm. This interview was conducted in a question and answer format, and he did not know the questions in advance. He only knew that the topic would be about Deliberate Orgasm, and documented as part of the ongoing sensual research of the Welcomed Consensus.

He agreed to allow parts of the interview to be published in this podcast in the interest of informing people who are new to these ideas. He will be describing what drew him to learning about Deliberate Orgasm and how it has affected his life and his relationships with women.

Here are some excerpts:

Sheri: What was happening in your life that had you seek for more information?

Vladimir: Ever since I was young, I had been seeking for more information and it was a pretty constant thread that had been running through my life. Various books that you can find that are pretty common out there, and just thinking about stuff. I always had fun with the women in my life and so I was like how can we have more of that? I always got off on getting women off, and wanted to know more about that. So that was just a constant thread that when I heard that you could have a one hour orgasm, I wanted to find out more about that.

Sheri: What were your first impressions when you were learning about Deliberate Orgasm

Vladimir: Well, my first impressions when I learned about Deliberate Orgasm, I am going to answer as if from the class, cause that was really where, I saw the videos and I kind of tried them, but really, my experience changed when I came to the Common Sensuality class and saw the OIC for the first time. Then it just expanded, what I thought it was going to be. I had been looking for a kind of better way to get a woman off, or another way to get a woman off kind of just another tool or technique, and saw that it was just so much more after the OIC.

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What Lubricant is Recommended for DOing?

2009-09-05T11:53:00.000-07:00

Using a lubricant is a basic element of Deliberate Orgasm (DOing). Even if you are DOing a woman and lots of natural fluids are present, using a personal lubricant is still important.

The glans of the clitoris is extremely sensitive, even more sensitive than the surface of the eye. And, like the eye, you want to be deliberate in the way that you touch it. In terms of the clitoris, use of lubrication prevents abrasions. Lubrication reduces the stress of wondering if she will get wet or be wet at the right time and, for both men and woman, simply feels more pleasurable.

There are 3 different lubricants we recommend for DOing, each one with its own specific use. Whether you will be using latex or not plays a significant role in which lubricant is right for you...

To read more you can sign up for either the Classic (free for students and DVD owners or Premium Members ($20) on www.welcomed.com

Take the Mystery Out of Female Orgasm

2009-09-01T18:13:00.000-07:00

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How do you reliably create female orgasm, any time and every time? This couple talks about having a better sex life with each other by adding on Deliberate Orgasm (DOing). Take the mystery out of sex ~ Learn about DOing.

If you are unable to view the video here, you can watch it on YouTube here.

What DO Women Want?: A Pleasurable Communication Tool

2009-08-21T09:16:00.000-07:00

What DO women really want?
A woman's pleasures and desires are always changing, day to day and moment to moment. Noticing your partner and having clear communication, both in and out of the bedroom, are fundamental elements for a fun and thriving relationship.

When there is a lack of communication between partners, many questions remain unanswered, creating mystery and detracting from the fun and pleasure you could be having together.

Questions like, "What did she mean by that?" Or, "Was that a 'good' moan, or a 'move your hand to the left' moan?" (More...)

If you would like to receive the full article What DO Women Want, sign up to receive our free newsletter on having more pleasure here.

Female Orgasm ~ A sensual touch for a better sex life

2009-08-12T10:09:00.000-07:00

How do you touch your partner to create better female orgasm and a better sex life? A sensuality instructor discusses an exercise in touching your partner's body for optimum sensation and pleasure, and producing better orgasm. Part of the curriculum in a Sensuality Retreat in Northern California, open to singles and couples.

You can now find out more about the Sensuality Retreats and Couples Retreat offered by the Welcomed Consensus.

Two People Putting Their Attention on One Person's Body

2009-08-03T07:31:00.000-07:00

Deliberate Orgasm is a body of information on living a pleasurable life. It includes viewpoints and techniques that enrich relationships and life experiences. The definition of Deliberate Orgasm is, by agreement, two people putting their attention on one person’s body for optimum pleasure.

During sensual experiences it is most common for the focus of attention to shift back and forth from one person to the other. While both may be wondering things such as “Am I doing it right? Does he/she like this?” This fragmented attention detracts from the pleasure that can be experienced.

When both people have their attention on one person’s body, and are feeling the pleasure you are experiencing in the moment, both can feel an array of sensual pleasure and sensation that previously may have gone unnoticed... read more

You can also learn about female orgasm here.

Orgasm at the First Touch: Discover What is Possible

2009-07-31T16:29:00.001-07:00

Expand your mind beyond habitual views of sex to bring richer, fuller sensuality into your life and your relationship. Experience greater connection and intimacy together adding Deliberate Orgasm at the First Touch.

Creating Female Orgasm, Every Time and Anytime

2009-07-24T08:03:00.000-07:00

The following is a podcast of a live interview by Crystal Bougon of Better Sex Radio with Francoise and Rachael of the Welcomed Consensus. Listen in and find out what makes Deliberate Orgasm deliberate, why “date” night will never be the same, and how anyone can reliably create orgasm in a woman’s body, every time and anytime.

Here is an excerpt-
"Crystal: Every time and anytime, now that is very intriguing because we know there is lots of woman out there that have issues with having orgasm on a regular basis. Have some dysfunction around it, or just can’t focus enough to have one. So how to we get to this point where we get one every time? How do we get reliable like that?

Francoise: The clitoris having the highest concentration of nerve endings and when both people have their attention who is receiving the pleasure and the woman herself can keep her attention on her body, she can relax, she doesn’t have to think and wonder, am I going to have to return anything, am I going to have to do anything. So she can focus on her own body, she can relax..."

Listen Now:

You may also visit the Female Orgasm Podcast to listen to more episodes on the topics on What Women Want and Female Orgasm.

(Female) Orgasm At the First Touch

2009-07-21T09:36:00.000-07:00

We stumbled upon this review of our latest release in the 3 Minute Orgasm Series -"Orgasm at the First Touch" which we found to be well written and informative on the topic of better female orgasm.

"My husband and I have viewed quite a few sex education videos, and this DVD is now one of our favorites. It’s 30 minutes long and is chocked full of information. It is preceded by Part 1: Introducing Deliberate Orgasm, which is highly recommended as it lays the ground work for part 2. For instance, what Deliberate Orgasm is, and how to do it.

The DVD includes: An introduction to the Welcomed Consensus (see end of review), an informational section on our cultures limited view of sexuality, an alternative definition of orgasm that includes more of our experiences, 3 steps to experience orgasm at the first touch, and a demonstration of Deliberate Orgasm (DOing) with these steps specifically outlined. It also shows interviews with people who practice Deliberate Orgasm, and special features with headings such as “Getting into the bedroom” and “Enjoying each moment.” Like I said, it’s chocked full.

Before the demonstration: The instructor describes things that most people do that takes away from the sensation they could be feeling. In general, our minds are wandering and the thoughts we do have about the situation is not necessarily making it better.

Time to get down to business: The 3 steps are used by both people and show you how to focus, feel more of what is happening in the moment, and how to do this from the first touch. The same demonstration is actually shown twice. The first time includes an overview of the steps, and the second has a detailed voiceover of when and how both people are using each step. This is very helpful. One of the key concepts in Deliberate Orgasm is approval, and the instructor also talks about how you can use approval to feel more. By the end of the demonstration I felt like we both knew everything we needed to know to give it a try.

But wait, there is more: The couples interviewed describe Deliberate Orgasm as a practice that adds to their other sex acts. They talked about feeling connected to their partner and a sense of playfulness in their relationship. They said that they experience a wider range of sensations, and feel sexually gratified, powerful and confident in their lives. I was sold by the end of the first demonstration, but the clincher for my husband was when one of the men, Dennis, said that he thought all guys wanted to hang out with a happy woman, and Deliberate Orgasm was the best way he knows to make his woman happy..."

Read the original review here.

To learn how All Female Orgasm is Clitorally Based visit this page.

An Orgasm a Day Keeps the Doctor Away

2009-07-19T12:59:00.000-07:00

The Welcomed Consensus has been teaching the benefits of having orgasm as a daily practice through Deliberate Orgasm for 25 years, but it was Mae West who has been credited for saying "An Orgasm a Day Keeps the Doctor Away." Before this concept took Britain by storm, an article with this as the title appeared last October in the McGill University newspaper.

"Regular orgasms can lengthen your life – or so it seems. Many studies, conducted from the seventies to present, indicate that an energetic sex life can be good for you. Although the science of sexuality is still young, it isn’t coming down on the side of abstinence.

One 1997 study, by Dr. Davie Smith and colleagues, quizzed men on the frequency of their orgasms, and followed up ten years later. The findings: men having frequent orgasms had a 50 per cent lower mortality risk than men having infrequent orgasms. That is, after controlling for factors like age and social status, the study concluded that the more orgasms you have, the lower your risk of death..."

Read entire article here.

The One Hour Female Orgasm: An Educational Demonstration

2009-07-17T10:43:00.000-07:00

The Welcomed Consensus is one of the few places available for people to witness a One Hour Orgasm. Discover how Deliberate Orgasm led to Sheri and Wendy's desire for researching and teaching female orgasm, and how it relates to their one hour female orgasm demonstration called Observation of Intense Coming (OIC).

Here is an excerpt:

Terry: What is the purpose of the OIC - why offer a demonstration of a woman in orgasm for an hour?

Wendy: Well, I would say that... it became this beautiful part of our life, and we wanted other women and men to have this experience. And so, we decided to teach this course to demonstrate what was possible. What one woman could do another woman could do. And what one man could produce in a woman's body, another man could produce in a woman's body. And it was a really fun course to witness. It's a very, it's a unique, it was a unique style of orgasm when I first saw it. Now it's my everyday way of orgasming. But we just wanted it to be out there so other people could have it as well.

To listen to this episode of the Female Orgasm podcast or to read the full transcript go here.

You may also be interesed in our other artciles on female orgasm that offer podcast content.

Creating Pleasurable Relationships through Deliberate Orgasm

2009-07-14T11:56:00.000-07:00

How would Deliberate Orgasm change your relationship, change your sex life? Here is a response from Becca and David – who have enjoyed Deliberate Orgasm as part of their sex life for over 10 years. The original interview was conducted in a question and answer format, they did not know the questions in advance. They only knew that the topic would be about Deliberate Orgasm, and documented as part of the ongoing sensual research of the Welcomed Consensus

The full transcript is available here.

Becca: My sex life has changed a lot in that I feel gratified, I feel gratified as just a base level of where I start from with anything. I used to feel more like I didn’t have enough of anything, and I would always come into any sex act or any relationship where there was a possible sex act like that – like “I do not have enough and how am I going to figure out how to get enough of what I want"... It’s just such a difference because now I’m having all the orgasm that I want, it’s never a problem to have all of the orgasm that I want.

David: How has my sex life changed since adding on DOing – that’s a big question. I think that it’s changed me as a man, it’s changed me in the way that I can notice. It’s changed me in being able to be a friend to a woman. It’s changed me in my ability to feel and recognize that the truth is in my body when I’m feeling her orgasm in my body. There’s just so many things that go on, it’s not like a head thing – it becomes integrated, so it’s like that, and it’s going to continue to expand, there’s no limit to it, it will always expand if I’m willing to go in that direction.

Create More Fun and Pleasure in Your Life

2009-07-12T11:32:00.000-07:00

"I had been winning in DOing and with women in general since the first Common Sensuality course I took... I simply have not lost with women since then."

Common Sensuality is a 2 day course taught by the Welcomed Consensus. The viewpoints offered in this course will expand your mind and your sensuality, providing you with new choices for fun and enjoyment.

If you have ever felt that there could be more to life, then this course can give you the tools to have more of what you want. It is an opportunity to learn about living pleasurably and creating gratifying relationships through thought provoking lecture and conversations designed specifically around your personal goals.

Appropriate for adults of all ages, singles and couples, regardless of proficiency or experience. The tuition is $200.00

You can register on line using Paypal or credit card here, or give us a call. It would be a pleasure to hear from you at 1-877-How-to-DO (469-8636)

The Welcomed Consensus have been researching and teaching about sensuality, pleasure and female orgasm for 25 years.

You may also read more student comments from students who have participated in the Common Sensuality 2-day Course.

Misconceptions about Kegel Exercises and the Benefits of Relaxing for Better Female Orgasm

2009-07-07T10:33:00.000-07:00

Kegel exercises were originally developed by Dr. Arnold Kegel in 1948 as a method of controlling incontinence in women after childbirth. Studies have shown that when done properly, Kegels can improve mild to moderate incontinence by increasing bladder control through strengthening the pelvic muscles, primarily the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle.

More recently, Kegels are widely publicized as a way to improve orgasm and make intercourse feel better. The purported sexual benefits of these exercises are to give a woman what is referred to as a "tight pussy". This is said to create more contact with her partner during intercourse and stronger contractions, hence, improving orgasm.

The model of orgasm commonly used in our culture is the reflexive release of tension that lasts from 6 to 12 contractions. The pelvic floor muscles are the muscles that contract during orgasm in both males and females. Therefore, it is not surprising that a great deal of emphasis has been placed on the importance of these muscles and their role in the orgasmic response.

Pelvic muscles are constantly held tight in our day to day life to control our bodily functions. Cultural conditioning that says sex is bad, also leads to tention being held, and this tightening transfers over to our sex lives.

The vagina in its natural relaxed state is an elongated, collapsed tube. In this state, the potential exists for pleasurable sensation to flow freely throughout the pelvic region and beyond. If the goal is to feel more sensation during intercourse and more pleasure during orgasm, Kegel exercises achieve just the opposite result. Less contact and less sensation.

Experiencing orgasm while relaxed is not typically the way people achieve orgasm. But it is through relaxing that one can increase sensation, creating better orgasm, and give people the contact they desire during intercourse.

If you want to learn more about the benefits of relaxing and better orgasm, visit our homepage here where you can sign up to receive our free newsletter on having more pleasure in your life.

All Female Orgasm is Clitorally Based

2009-06-24T13:15:00.000-07:00

The clitoris of a woman is homologous to the apex of a man's penis. The head or glans of the clitoris contains 8,000 pressure sensitive nerve endings, double the number of nerve endings as in the analogous organ in males, the glans penis, making it particularly sensational and fun to stimulate. The glans of the clitoris is approximately the size and shape of a pea, although it can be significantly larger or smaller. The sole function of the clitoris is to feel pleasure.

The clitoris is a complex structure that includes external and internal components. Starting at the glans, covered in full or in part by the clitoral hood, it extends back and up along the shaft for several centimeters before it reverses direction. There it enters the body and splits into an inverted V shape known as the clitoral crura or legs of the clitoris, which are located generally behind the labia minora.

There is considerable variation in how much of the clitoris protrudes from the hood and how much is covered by it, ranging from being completely covered, needing to be pulled back for stimulation, to being fully exposed. There is no correlation between the size of a clitoris and a woman's age, height, weight, use of oral contraceptives, being post-menopausal or how much she feels... read more

You may also be interesed in another artcile on the topic of female anatomy.

"Thanks for Coming - One Young Woman's Quest for an Orgasm"

2009-05-17T12:59:00.000-07:00

Thanks for Coming is the first book published by Mara Altman and is receiving favorable reviews everywhere. We found it a fun read that for many will hold some valuable insights as well.

Here are some excerpts from a review by Divine Caroline:

"From meeting the Fairy Godmother of Masturbation and her introduction to vibrators, to visiting the mysterious “Orgasm People” and learning that orgasm can be more than the crotch sneeze she had set her sights upon, she shares explicitly of her experiences...

...While some of the characters she meets offer conflicting and even far out advice on the topic of female orgasm, she clearly thought about and carefully considered what was being offered by sexperts and seemingly “perverts” alike. More than an expose however, Altman’s vulnerability and nativity shines through, and by the end you feel as though you know her."

Read full review here.

Deliberate Orgasm: Turning the Tables

2009-05-13T13:40:00.000-07:00

The following is a post from Bill on the Clit Board. It is a wonderful description of how men experience their orgasm expanding through DOing a woman.

"I know this is a forum for female orgasm, but my efforts in applying what I've learned here have not gone unnoticed, and my partner is turning the tables on me. She's always been a wonderful kisser, and slowing down and changing stimulation as I approach orgasm has resulted in something I've never heard of, and may be worth mentioning.

I've read about men having an orgasm without ejaculating, but sometimes she's able to make me ejaculate without having an over the top orgasm. It involves her careful attention to how close I am, and carefully slowing and reducing stimulation as I approach the brink. If our timing together is perfect, just before I would go over, I relax and ejaculate completely, but in a steady flow rather than in spurts, and without going over the top. This is a wonderful feeling, and probably similar to what she feels when I do this kind of thing to her, and it leaves me feeling satisfied but still hungry - just as she describes how she feels when I do this for her.

She says she's trying to give me the same kinds of feelings I'm giving her, and I guess there are indeed many similarities in the ways that men and women feel."

You may read what what the Welcomed Consensus wrote in reponse and post to the Clit Board here.

You may also be interesed in reading our other articles on the topic of a female model of orgasm

Masters and Johnson - Masters of Sex, but not Love.

2009-05-12T09:36:00.000-07:00

This article by Michael Washburn recently appeared in the Boston Globe. Titled "Carnal Knowledge" is about the newest release by author Thomas Maier, "MASTERS OF SEX: The Life and Times of William Masters and Virginia Johnson, the Couple Who Taught America How to Love."

"You know you want it - we all do, even though most have remained in the dark about what it actually is. Desire does make its demands, yet for all the staggering influence sexuality exerts on human history, we've more or less remained condemned to a misinformed sexual adolescence. As case in point: For years, original "sexologist" Elizabeth Osgood Willard's proclamation that an orgasm was more debilitating than an entire day's labor in the fields was considered scientifically valid.

Knowledge, thankfully, advances, though often in suspect ways. Over the past 100 years or so, the study of human sexuality examined the extravagantly theoretical (Richard von Krafft-Ebing's fetish for the abnormal and Freud's baroque interpretations of our polymorphous perversity) and the titillatingly sociological (Alfred Kinsey's then-prurient cataloging of sexual preference) before seriously addressing fundamental biological processes.

In this latter realm of inquiry, William Masters and Virginia Johnson are to be thanked for explaining what actually goes on when we get it on. Through their empirical research as well as their sober presentation of potentially inflammatory subject matter, Masters and Johnson, argues Thomas Maier in the over-titled "Masters of Sex: the Life and Times of William Masters and Virginia Johnson, the Couple Who Taught America How to Love," brought the "sexual revolution to suburban malls and the everyday lives of Americans." En route to the mall they managed to dispel quite a bit of sexual hokum, as well as provide shoddy scientific support to sexual reactionaries..."Read full article here.

Join the Welcomed Consensus on Twitter

2009-05-09T13:33:00.000-07:00

You can now follow the Welcomed Consensus on twitter. Find out the lastest news on Deliberate Orgasm and get sneak peeks into our courses, research and video production. Welcomeddotcom

Going for the 'DO'

2009-04-13T11:13:00.000-07:00

An article on Deliberate Orgasm and the Welcomed Consensus A 3 Minute Orgasm videos appeared in the George Washington University Hatchet today.

Going for the 'DO'
Instructional videos teach techniques behind deliberate orgasms
by Marshal Staggs

The female orgasm is a topic that I think should never be closed for discussion. So when I received a set of DVDs to review from a sex research company that had read my column about the female orgasm, I was excited to see another take on the subject.

The Welcomed Consensus has been around for about 15 years and puts out several videos about female masturbation and the female orgasm. They sent me instructional videos about the three-minute orgasm, which can be achieved simply by taking three minutes to relax and allowing yourself to experience pleasure. The concept they introduce, the deliberate orgasm, is not so much a specific technique as it is a philosophy, consisting of focusing on pleasurable and sensual activities...

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You may also read a review of Part 2 in the A 3 Minute Orgasm series Orgasm at the First Touch.

DOing...What Women Want.

2009-04-02T13:49:00.000-07:00

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

San Francisco, CA April 2, 2009 - Pioneers in the field of female orgasm and internationally known educators of sensuality, the Welcomed Consensus announce the release of their latest DVD titled Orgasm at the First Touch - part two of the series - A 3 Minute Orgasm. This unique DVD gives a historical account of the misconceptions about female orgasm, presents a new definition of orgasm and shows a detailed demonstration and instruction for creating orgasm any time and every time.

Female orgasm is currently a hot topic in the media. More interest is arising about knowing its effects, biological function, and how women can orgasm more readily. Some may refer to it as a mystery or theorize its purpose, while others focus on how to give a woman an orgasm.

The commonly held view of orgasm defined strictly by muscular contractions, is expanding in the mainstream, as evidenced in Wikipedia. Under Definitions of Orgasm “the idea of extended or continuous orgasm lasting several minutes or even an hour”, is now included in its Orgasm article. Also, major bookstores like Barnes and Noble are carrying books that illustrate this new paradigm, such as “Instant Orgasm: Excitement at First Touch.” Authors, Drs. Steve and Vera Bodansky, are friends and former business partners of the Welcomed Consensus and teach widely about extended orgasm. This new definition of orgasm that is now coming to the fore is contributed to largely from research done with Deliberate Orgasm (DOing).

The Welcomed Consensus are researchers (and educators) in the field of female orgasm, and are renowned for teaching Deliberate Orgasm. They have found that experiencing this longer, more intense kind of orgasm is not only possible, it provides sensual gratification, greater intimacy, and an overall feeling of well being and happiness for both men and women.

One of the most emailed recent articles in the New York Times, The Pleasure Principle, about the One Taste Urban Retreat Center, mentions Deliberate Orgasm. “She [the founder, Nicole Daedone] changed the term ‘deliberate orgasm’, as it is called by other practitioners, to the more marketable ‘orgasmic meditation.’” This leaves the burning questions, what exactly is this technique and how can I learn to do it?

Deliberate Orgasm is more than a technique. It is a body of information that can be added on to what people already have and experience in their lives. They have made this information available on DVD so people can learn DOing in the privacy of their own home.

Although they have a course which demonstrates a one hour orgasm, The Welcomed Consensus also demonstrates that 3 minutes of DOing will have a woman be gratified. They show how 3 minutes is the perfect place to start if what you want is more fun and pleasure in your life, more intimacy and connection with your partner, and a sex life that keeps getting better.

About The Welcomed Consensus:
The Welcomed Consensus is an internationally known center of education for sensuality. Since 1992, they have offered courses, retreats and videos on communication with an emphasis on female orgasm and pleasurable living. They have taught thousands of people to expand their sensual life. Their educational female orgasm videos are the first and only educational videos available that have detailed demonstrations of the technique of DOing.

View a pre-view of this female orgasm video.

For DVD descriptions and video clips, visit The Welcomed Consensus videos page at www.welcomed.com/videos

Release Date: April 30thCost: 2 DVD set is $29.90

Pre-release copy available upon request

For information: www.welcomed.com

Contact: consensus@welcomed.com
Phone: 1(877)469-8636 (How-to-DO)

Is Deliberate Orgasm like Tantra?

2009-03-27T10:16:00.000-07:00

This question has been asked many times, but we are not familiar with Tantra in a way that would allow us to come to a knowledgeable conclusion.

What the Welcomed Consensus offers are viewpoints and practices, to be added onto what you already believe and have, that open the door to the potential of living a pleasurable life and having a relationship beyond your wildest dreams.

From our 25 years of research on female orgasm we have found that there is a way that women experience orgasm that men and women can learn from. Through Deliberate Orgasm, experiencing this longer, more intense kind of orgasm provides sensual gratification, greater intimacy, and an overall feeling of wellbeing and happiness for both men and women.

People who learn and practice Deliberate Orgasm report experiencing mental clarity, higher levels of consciousness, the sense of oneness or knowingness, heightened states of sensitivity and awareness, and a deep feeling of connection with their partners.

If you have a question for the Welcomed Consensus visit the Clit Board! - a place for men and women to talk about orgasm.

The Pleasure Principle and Deliberate Orgasm

2009-03-22T10:30:00.000-07:00

It seems all the world has been a buzz with the recent New York Times article, The Pleasure Principle, about the One Taste community and the retreat center in San Francisco where the focus is on female orgasm through Orgasmic Meditation.

In response to this quote from the article,

“She changed the term 'deliberate orgasm', as it is called by other practitioners, to the more marketable 'orgasmic meditation'.”

this is what Deliberate Orgasm has to offer:

Deliberate Orgasm is more than a simple technique. It is about exploring the potential of female orgasm and bringing this into the sensual experiences of both men and women. The communication and inclusion of new viewpoints involved enriches relationships, bringing them to a higher level that includes more pleasure, fun, and greater intimacy. Men who learn to produce this longer and more intense female model of orgasm can learn from it and experience it in their own body. Women can easily apply the same principles and DO her partner, creating a gratifying and potentially an ever expanding sex life.

Most often misunderstood, Deliberate Orgasm is not intended to replace anything. It is something to be added onto what people are already experiencing and enjoying during sex. Through DOing, everything else just gets better. It is not limited to men or women, to age, previous experience or circumstances of a relationship. DOing is available to everyone, or anyone who is willing to say "What I have is good, and I want more".

What is Deliberate Orgasm?

2009-03-20T20:51:00.000-07:00

Find out what Deliberate Orgasm is and how it can take your sex life from where ever it is to better than you dreamed possible. Dr. Patricia Taylor interviews two instructors from the Welcomed Consensus about the practice of Deliberate Orgasm, the pleasure it offers for both men and women and the power of gratifying sensual experiences available to everyone on "Deliberate Orgasm - The Practice, The Pleasure, The Power."

Listen in to find out more about the Welcomed Consensus. Learn what Deliberate Orgasm is. Why are women so changed (for the better) by it? How do you do it? How pleasurable is it, anyway? Why is this a “female model of orgasm”? What are “thunkspots” and when is the best time to touch them? What are some of the guiding principles of D.O.? How has it changed the lives of people that learn this?

Here are some excerpts:

Dr. Patti Taylor: Our guests today are two women who have devoted many years to intense research and experience on these topics, Francoise Devresse and Susan Tarantino.

Francoise: Orgasm is part of our life and what we do is we teach what we live and that’s how we do our research. We actually live it and then see what we notice about it. That’s the kind of thing that we put in our research and our teachings.

Susan: The female orgasm is the foundation of our sex life and our sensuality.

Francoise: Our main focus is on female orgasm and a while back, we all were very interested in finding out how to have more fun in our life and more fun from having better female orgasm. So we focused our research there.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay, you focused on the female, why is that?

Francoise: Most of the time, we’ve discovered that in researching and looking at the female orgasm, that there was actually a new kind of pleasure and new world that were available that will translate into the men’s orgasm as well. So we decided to put our focus there and find out what would open up.

Francoise: We have found out that over the years, we can always come to deeper level of relaxation that will increase the sensation. You can experience it all over your body that way. The very basic little tool that you can use is make sure you use a good lubricant. You can use a KY lubricant. Or, when people are partnered together for awhile, they can use some Vaseline or dab a Vaseline. Lubricant is a wonderful addition and you get right on there. The position that we like to use is one that the man can actually look at a woman’s ...

The entire transcript is available at the Welcomed Consensus website.