For 25 years our research on female orgasm has been a lot about slowing down. Slowing down your mind, slowing down your stroke. The reason being is that the slower you go, the more you can feel.
For example: Place the palms of your hands against one another. Now quickly slide them apart. Notice what you feel. Now, place the palms of you hands together as before, but this time pull them across one another and apart as slowly as you can. What do you feel now? (View video on this exercise)
Below is an article one of our students sent us regarding slow sex. It is written by Carl Honore, journalist author of "In Praise of Slowness". Enjoy.
In Praise of Slow Sex
The other day a buddy of mine was making love to his new girlfriend his cellphone beeped with an incoming text message. Like any guy, he hoped she would ignore the alert - or even fail to notice it altogether.
The opposite happened. The woman opened her eyes, grabbed the phone from the bedside table and read the message. She then typed out a short reply.
"To be fair, she apologized and suggested we go back to the sex," says my crestfallen friend. "But it was kind of a mood-killer."
Two conclusions can be drawn from an anecdote like this. The first is that my friend maybe needs to brush up on his sexual technique. The second is that his girlfriend's behavior reveals something alarming about the way we live nowadays.
In this media-drenched, multitasking, always-on age, many of us have forgotten how to unplug and immerse ourselves completely in the moment. We have forgotten how to slow down...read more from "In Praise of Slow Sex"
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